Kick them. If you allow that to happen, either you don't care for the realm or it is still a net benefit for the realm.
The "funneling" of gold out of a realm for personal profit or to aid your other character somewhere else is fully intentional. Its purpose is to create conflict. Absolutely nothing in the game says you have to take it, you know?
Absolutely agree; the problem is how to prove it. You don't get to see players' transactions.
If secret police reports would reveal, say, the last 5 bank transactions, THAT would be useful, and cracking down on gold leeching would be much easier.