It seams like to me you are blaming the system for a person problem. IF realm A has people who work together and no how to follow conditional orders then yes they are probably going to beat realm b who needs to rely on one person to tell them what to do.
With this game you must remember that people play at different times. Some may only play once a day or less often. If you have people like this in your army you need to adjust your strategy. Saying the game is broke and punishing realms because they people who are less active will not do anything.
