See, we need more of this.
I got away with a lot of things in my days. I'll admit that a lot of it is due to context that is extremely hard to replicate.
In this case, Hetland had just engaged themselves in a war which they weren't doing so good in, and all of their allies were also stuck in wars. My own realm had clearly defined enemies and friends, Hetland was an enemy. Our peace treaty with Hetland had just expired, but we had made sure (I had, actually, when I was ruler I believe) that their peace treaty expired months before any of the other realms.
The last thing Hetland needed was war, and our own realm (Enweil) had recuperated from the last gang-bang and was ready for some revenge. I also commanded a small but elite and active group of very loyal nobles that represented a serious militaro-political force in Enweil, not to mention that even the calmer ones recognized that I was the only one really spicing things up for everyone.
Much like Allison in Dwilight, really.