It took me some 5 months to become a lord. Then I lost it after a few months and it took me another 7 months to gain another lordship. From there I've gone through 5-6 lordships, 2 council positions, 3-4 marshalships, and some others things..
Anyways, my point is whether or not your timing is good or not, I believe that most players who stick around and are dedicated to the game eventually get the ball rolling.