I hate to say it but both sides are somewhat right. D'hara did dick dance all around peace talks and even an alliance with Aurvandil to get Paisly back. As far as I'm concerned D'hara deserved to lose Paisly and it was perfectly legitimate. No agreement was kept and thus Aurvandil was not under any sort of obligation to not take Paisly. Now D'hara hasn't ceeded claim to Paisly in any of this, and of course a new realm on their claimed territory is going to provoke war. Neither side has a right to whine. Both of you are right and both of you are wrong.