Considering she was tortured until she escaped, and received messages to the effect of "You know, your stay could easily be more pleasant if..." I took it that he wanted the information right then. Earlier in this thread it was said that nobles could eventually, through whatever means (IC use of the family history), find a connection between a noble and an adventurer. I can accept that. But, in my opinion, it's different to actually expect the adventurer to be able to provide detailed military information from their estranged noble relatives whenever someone asks.
Honestly, though, at the time I wasn't sure if it was Abuse with a capital A, or just incredibly poor gameplay (like using a private RP as public info), and went about handling it IC (with limited advy-style success). The issue seems just as iffy now, but it still really, really bothers me.