If I recall correctly, Tom did change some code to reduce the effect of multiple war declarations. So something did change. It may not have been the change your compatriots were hoping for though.
I really hope to see you guys manage to pull through the situation though. From what I have read, Aurvandil provides a lot of fun to the game. I would hate to see such a colorful realm get taken out so easily. Do not give up! Fight on!