The war, and the fact that it's 4v1, are entirely Riombara's fault. This is a war of aggression against Enweil and that is how most of the rest of the islands perceives it, which is in turn why so many realms are willing to help Enweil; it's Riombara that looks like the bully here.
Riombara dropped the ball diplomatically. Things would have been much different if some of the arguments posted to the forum were used in game before the war (and to more than just the rulers). Enweil didn't limit itself to relying on their ruler, my character was getting word of things through guild/religious message channels. Maybe the realms in the north are used to communicating with each other more, and Riombara forgot that there is more to Beluaterra than them and Enweil.
Also helped that Chenier wasn't in any position of leadership in Enweil in the build up to the war.
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