Tiridia
If your on Dwilight I can see you getting worked up over this, however, if he calls you lord or earl does it really matter. If your not on a SMA continent long as he refers to your status I deem that appropriate. If you get worked up at a new player over that or a returning I think you should settle down some.
Isn't Dwilight the only SMA?
Personally I see very little different in: Earl, Baron, Count. Trick around it is to call everyone Lord or Lady... I'd only call by actual title if I new them or I myself were a lord. (see I used lord there)