i never said that ooc connection was the only way to organize colony.
3-4 men without needing to form colony, but creating completely new realm has nothing to do with isolating yourself.
as i mentioned several times, main difference is that colony, if properly played, retains firm vassal relation for very long period of time, and can hardly create new political dynamics.
If you want to create a colony that has no tie to the mother realm (which is exactly what you are describing)...
Then find a way to do it with a CTO.
The features requested here are not going to be added. Period. We have explained the reasons over and over. They simply do not fit into the vision for what BattleMaster is supposed to be.
If you don't like it, then I'm afraid there's nothing I can do for you.