Alright, here's an idea based on Kain's post:
Instead of Glory applied to TMP and affecting Ruler regions, etc. like now, it is applied to the Ruler.
If it hits a certain TMP level, Ruler and Council gets lightning bolted. Out of office, can't be re-elected/re-appointed for X time period.
Removes punishments against realm, regions, ability to raise army, etc. Puts it directly on people responsible for not getting involved in wars. OOC punishment - nothing to do with RP. You are given a gaming framework by Tom and devs in which you are expected to maintain a level of fighting and warfare, in the same way you are expected to keep a medieval atmosphere.
Punish the offenders, spare the innocent.
Yet somehow I think you won't like it