In Morek, there is a guild called the "Academy of Noble Conduct". We try to get new nobles to join it, so that they can ask questions and get answers.
I'd gladly be a mentor, but IC, this would require dropping my ambassador subclass, and I don't want to do that! I think a guild is a much better setup.
I'm sorry to hear you had a bad experience. Feel free to send messages to the whole realm in Morek. You'll get answers.