I would cheer on Tom bolting the one making the complaint.
There are plenty of players who play together, to the exclusion of others. The only difference is, they aren't known to have come from outside game, so we think it's "okay" and they are just "roleplaying that their families go way back because they do", etc, etc.
I've spoken with the new ruler of the freestate, and he seems like a nice guy. I don't know if he's a saxon or not, and I don't care, as long as he follows SMA.