I honestly dont know why people are complaining about the war. It is Thalmarkin VS Melhed. Nobody else has gotten involved.
Speaking from Old Grehk's point of view, we would only
consider getting involved if Melhed began conquering Thalmarkin and getting closer to our borders. That would be considered a threat to our soverignty and frankly speaking we wouldnt let an ally be destroyed. If you consider that means two or three regions then you are mistaken. Thalmarkin are big boys and girls, I am sure they can deal with a war with Melhed and reclaim any regions they stole from them. If Melhed gets another realm onside to aid them, we would
consider involving ourselves then as well, to keep the balance in the war.
All I see are people complaining and making excuses that we are going to get involved, when frankly we are not. If Melhed wants to keep it that way, I suggest they lift their standing and ability on the diplomatic front, they seriously need to work on that overtime if they want to ensure any favourable outcome from this war.
Oh and please note the word "consider" doesnt mean it is a definate. There are many factors to take into account when making these kinds of decisions, I was merely outlining some potential scenarios