Could you perhaps state, what/which realm(s) you have formed bonds with people there to the extent that it becomes your sole reason for continuing to play?
In Westmoor, we all get along, have a laugh and just get on with the game. The sense of camaraderie in the realm is brilliant, and even more so since the war broke out. People can harp on about destroying the realm on these boards or on IRC, but I know we'll all go down fighting to the last if it came to it.
To a lesser extent, Caelum has also been interesting and fun. Certainly at the birth of the realm where we had the controversy over Duchies and Judge Edmundus. I enjoyed throwing Alaron into those debates. It was a shame he got captured by rogues and hit with the ransom bug, as Alaron is a toady essentially - he'll worm his way into favour one way or another, even if it means banning people. It's settled down a bit now, but if the communication issue isn't resolved I suspect we'll see things liven up again.
Edit: Both of my BT toons are in Caelum - Alaron and Ventus. Malos used to be in Old Grehk ages ago but was banished because of the OOC asshattery of the Judge and Banker duo they had there a while back.