Realms I've been in that were destroyed:
Sartania, Ash Sea Islands, NeoSartania, Mesh and Hetland.
Did I quit playing after any of those? Did I come whining to the forums asking people to spare my realm for OOC reasons? Hell no.
Realms fight wars. Sometimes they get destroyed. Deal with it. Losing can be a really fun experience. The best times I've had in this game were Sartanians travelling from one realm to another in exile in an attempt to find a new place to live.
What's more, in this case, it's quite clear that Perdan still has a good chance of not being destroyed and, if it is destroyed, it will only be because that's exactly what Perdan has wanted to do to the realms it's now losing to. If OOCly you don't want your realm destroyed then a first step would be don't try to destroy the realms of others. It's really not complicated.
