i actually agree fully, but then what do you want? people complain when you destroy a realm, people complain when you cripple a realm, people basically complain about any form of loss. you knew what you were getting into when you signed up, this isnt a text based version of wow where all movement is forward no matter how bad you screw up.
like it or not and whether certain devs agree or not bm is not just a competitive game, but an intensely competitive game by its very nature. you have competition within realms for titles and competition between realms over lands. remove that competition and you may as well be running an rp forum. object to that competition and youre fighting against human nature.