The colonies aren't designated a heavy RP area. If that's what you want, then you really, REALLY, need to go to Outer Tilog. I love to hate them, my character plots to destroy them, and yet as a player, I would hate to see them go.
And you're right about the wars--it's not like there's a battle every week. Once a month is more like it, if you're lucky.
The main problem in the Colonies is that the Lukon-Oriolton alliance ensures that whatever side of a war those two powerful realms are on, is the winning side of the war. If they would attack each other...the world would become a much more interesting place.