So have I, and I find them equally tedious. Raise troops. March to Sermbar. See troops slaughtered. Raise more troops. Repeat ad nauseam.
Then a) maybe your realm lacks some of the RP/IC atmosphere that the long-term-war realms I was in had, and b) maybe your realm lacks the imagination they had to come up with other ways to attack (actually, now I think of it, that could account for (a) as well).
In my experience, a realm with some imagination and atmosphere can be extremely fun when in a war (especially when the enemy also has imagination!), and is still way more fun in peacetime than realms where everyone is just all about the numbers.
