There's no double standard here. I would think that declaring war on someone would bring things to a whole new level. Did Morek ignore and refuse to talk to Asylon, and then declare war without telling anyone why? Did Astrum, or Caerwyn?
You need to get over the persecution complex. I'm trying to have a reasonable, polite conversation with someone. The last thing we need is you barging in with all your historical baggage and trying to start a flame-fest.
So why did you bring up historical baggage and flamefests? You started off good and then flubbed.