Mostly the church is keeping them busy. Senseless talks... Tournaments kept me occupied for a year then that got old when I realized it is almost impossible to reach 100% swordfighting as a noble 
Gotta say, Southern realms do seem more energetic.
Depends what you want and when you join.
And what position you have when you get there, of course.
Of course, if "when" is right now, there are many wars going on.
