So you make a FEDERATION (not an alliance) with a realm your peasants hate, which hurts MORALE (not moral), and lack the intellectual fortitude to have diplomats correct the issue even before that realm is destroyed... You have problems after it's been wiped out because you had that Federation. And still refuse to use diplomats.
You seem to have issue with terminology.
However, you don't want the peasants angry at you for entering your realm in a federation with a realm they hated. Yet you want a magic turn-off switch? Hell, I think Tom should tweak it that they remain angry for a few months after that realm is destroyed for the simple reason that you apparently don't think things through when making diplomatic decisions.
It'd be like Old Grehk entering into a federation with Fronen or Perdan entering into a federation with Ibladesh and then complaining that the peasants are throwing a fit!
