I'm just looking for a place with some active internal communications, and possibly a few roleplayers. I don't want to have to be a livening force in a realm but instead join a realm which is already somewhat lively. I like RP'ing and I enjoy good interactions amongst the hierarchy and abroad.
Ohnar has a good bit of communications, especially in the councils, where nobles can apply to join. RPwise, it stays in the religion mostly, you won't get daily doses of nauseating RPs. As for liveliness, we got told our armies were more cohesive than Aurvandil
at the height of the war, around 30-40 messages a day. Plus, we get blow by blow updates of what's going on around the world in peacetime, plus an army for special operations around the north.