I think that perhaps you don't understand what "we are all volunteers working in our spare time" really means.
All the devs spend what time they can, working to develop the game as best they can. That means stuff takes time to fix or implement. Sometimes that time is very significant. If you want instant response and lots of resources expended to change the eemergency-of-the-day, then maybe you should play a game with a full time paid dev team.
In the meantime, if you find some part of the game too stressful, then stop playing that part of the game, and do something else. Let someone else who doesn't mind doing it take over.
