I think the sky must be falling, because I am in complete agreement with Kai 
How about all three of us?
Characters/families have no real ties to realms or lands. They can just move to another realm on a whim, losing nothing, except perhaps an ephemeral lordship that can be easily replaced. In an environment where things are easily replaced, things have no meaningful value.
So, what can be done to provide that meaningful value? Do we want to really try to create that meaningful value?
