Also, I can only "play the game" so to speak with SA if I'm a member of it? Nonsense.
Kale has many influences and connections in SA. He did play the game. Just because he "lost" doesn't mean he didn't "play the game."
Not really nonsense, no. Your ability to influence the Church directly as a non-member is essentially non-existent, so you'd have to be working through cat's paws who
are members of the Church, which limits you to fighting with whatever influence or power those particular members are able to wield. Unless you have unusually highly placed or influential contacts in the Church who are willing to argue your side, it's a fairly large handicap not being able to speak for yourself and build up your own power base within the Church, at least when you're sparring with an Elder.
SA has a tradition of highly influential members basically running the show and dragging the rest of the Church along with them. I'm sorry, but you just can't expect to wield much influence in the Church through a third party unless the Third party in question is a serious power player in his own right, in which case any credit for playing and winning the game would go to him, not you, wouldn't it?