Looting enemy regions is somewhat different to uprooting your family and placing them in an enemy realm though isn't. Don't worry extended family members with young children and wives, even though we regularly call these people pirates and doubt their nobility, I have no doubt you will be completely safe within their borders. This is forgetting the whole issue of exactly HOW you would even get permission to settle your family there, and forgetting that they would have to all select the hero subclass to even do it.
Privileges of being of the upper class, the elite of the elite? Same presumptions of unbreakable social norms that dictate that you can't execute someone without banning him first.
As to how to get permission to settle there, that's pretty obvious: gold. Doesn't cost a bucketload of it for nothing. I suspect bribes have a good deal to do with it.
